A husband has said an everyday conversation with his young daughter exposed his wife’s cheating and shattered their 14-year marriage.
Steven (not his real name) returned home one day and listened as his daughter as told him about her day, when one detail of her story jumped out.
The girl mentioned that her mum had been at the neighbour’s house, leading to her dad asking more about what had happened.
She recounted that when she arrived home from school she found her mum was not there, but instead the neighbour popped his head round his front door and told her that her mum would “be right out”.
Alarm bells started ringing for Steven, who said he asked his wife why she had been with their neighbour the following day, as reported by Kidspot.
At first she passed it off as nothing and came up with a quick excuse, but her husband said due to the length of time they had been together, he knew exactly how she acted when she was lying. She eventually broke down and admitted that they had kissed and touched, but that it “felt wrong” so she stopped it.
“I know how she lies to everybody, and how good she is at it,” said Steven. “So I believe that it went further than the kissing.”
He says he kicked her out of the house but later agreed to marriage counseling and allowing her to move back in, which he said he did “more for the kids”.
But he became even more suspicious when she later revealed the pair had been speaking for several weeks before they met up, as an innocent text message led to exchanging photos and flirty texts.
His wife maintained that it hadn’t gone further than a kiss, with Steven adding: “She said that it was just wrong and stopped immediately.
“She said that when it was texting it wasn’t real and when it got down to it in real life she felt like she was going to vomit.
But I just don’t see two adults stopping given the opportunity to do what they had been talking about for three weeks.
I’m literally going crazy because I do love her but it’s starting to feel like love you have for a longtime friend and not a love you feel for your wife.”
After asking for advice on Reddit, one said: “I think at this point you have to assume she did cheat on you and then ask yourself whether you can forgive her.
Figure out what it will take for you to be able to stay with your wife and not be thinking about what happened in ways that interferes with you and your family’s wellbeing. It will take time.”
Another wrote: “Counselling is a good first start. She is going to have to make major reparations to repair the relationship. She might not be up to the task. Good luck.”